Love: The Driving Force

Is everything done, really done out of love or a lack of love?

Is love really the controlling force in our world?  I would say yes.  Whether someone is acting out of love or a lack of love, it is still love is still the driving force.  

Think about this in your own life for a moment.  If you act meanly towards another – hey, I know you never would, but suppose you did – would it be because you desired to be mean, or would it be because you felt unloved?  And if it was because you desired to be mean, why?  Again, it is because you don’t feel loved.  Okay.  Maybe a desire for revenge was the thought in your head… but doesn’t that stem from a lack of love?  They didn’t feel loved, and you were hurt.  You don’t feel love – especially towards them, and you want them to know it.  

It’s a lack of love.

So what about the good things we do?  Don’t they stem from love, or a desire to be loved?  Love is the controlling force behind all that is done, whether we consciously recognize it or not.  

So, while we may be able to agree to this premise on a personal basis, what about a civil basis.  Is everything done in society done out of love or a lack of love?  I believe the answer is still yes, because even when things are done on a great scale, they still come back to personal motive.  

In this little town, some have complained about the state that several properties are kept, and because they don’t like what they see, they have complained to the town council and are trying to pass new laws regarding how people keep their property.  Now, diving into this opens a whole new can of worms, but I’m not going to deal with all that.  What I am going to deal with is their motive.

Those complaining think they love this little town more than those they are complaining about.  They think they are helping make it a better place, by making everyone conform to their ideals and standards.  If you follow non-mainstream news, you will know there are examples of this taking place all the time.  These folks think they are doing good, but how does it affect others?  Not nicely.  

Sure, in a town or city situation, we all have a responsibility to one another, but does that mean one group should be able to dictate how another lives?  Is that really loving, or is it a lack of love?  I think it goes both ways.  There is a point where every parent dictates a great share of how their children live, and for the most part, it is done out of love – a desire to see the child happy and cared for.  But there comes a point where to continue to do so would not be loving.  Children grow.  They learn.  They become independent, and I believe it is a parent’s job to assist the child in becoming the best version of themselves… but that doesn’t mean it is the parent’s job to dictate what that is.  Do you see what I am saying?

The child’s best version of himself  must be dictated by the child.  The child needs to decide for himself what he wants to do with his life – what will make him happy.  What he can do out of love.  We, as parents will influence our children by what we are, so be the kind of person you want your child to be… but, back to the topic of the town and people who complain.

Is telling others how to live loving?  No.  Not in the long run.  It is controlling.  

Is wanting the best for your town loving?  Yes, but who are you to determine what is best?  Do the best with what you have, where you are.  Make sure you are truly acting in love, because trying to force someone else into your mold is not love.  It is a lack of love.  A lack of love for that person and where they are at in life.  

Old cars may not look great, but if they are part of that person’s lively hood, would you really be instrumental in taking that away?  Everything you do is either out of love or a lack of love, and you know that what you give out comes back to you many fold.  Do you want to draw in love, or a lack of love?