How To get a Wardrobe You Will Love

When you think of putting together a wardrobe you love, you think of fancy dressed and strappy sandals.  While these things are great, they are not what you need, most of the time.  What do you do with your life?  That is the first question you need to answer.

List everything you do with your life.  Go ahead.  I’ll make my list, and you make yours.

 -keep house

-take care of my children

-garden

-grocery shopping and other necessary shopping

-attend church

-visit friends and family

-work out

-sleep

-write, draw, sew, and create

Now, list what you wear most of the time.

-jeans and t-shirts.

Are you comfortable with this arrangement?

-Yes, but I want something more.

If you were going to change it, how would you change it?

-Nicer t-shirts and/or woven shirts for everyday wear.

Why do you wear what you wear?

-They are easy, cheep and I consider them disposable.

Is that how you want to treat yourself?

-No.

What would be the right way to treat yourself?

-With love and respect.

How does that look?

-It looks good.  It looks like I am cared for and loved.  It looks like I am ready to go someplace or have company at the drop of a hat.  I don’t have to get ready to go.  I am ready.

Would you want to go out in what you are wearing right now?

-I have before.  I suppose it depends on where I am going.  No… not really.

Then what makes it okay to wear right now.

-It is comfortable, at least in theory.

So, you’re not even comfortable, even though you are wearing ‘comfortable’ clothing, in the privacy of your own home.

-Yeah.  That pretty much sums it up.

Do you think you would be more productive, if you were comfortable?

-I might be, but I have a hard time sitting still when I am dressed up.

I didn’t ask you if you would be more productive if you were dressed up.  I asked about productivity and comfort.

-That would depend on the type of comfort.

Comfortable with how you look.  I don’t think you are comfortable with how you look when you are dressed up, or you would be very productive.  Likewise, wearing lounge clothing is a sign to shut off the productivity, so you are right about the type of comfort.

This is the key to finding out how you should dress, and how to design your wardrobe.

You need to find out what you wear to be the most comfortable with YOU and thus, productive.

I realize these are not the steps you were looking for, but this is the answer you need.  Work through it, and remember that nothing lasts forever.  What will make you comfortable now is not the same thing that made you comfortable in high school.  You are not the person you were then, and you won’t be the person you are now at this time next year.  Change is good.